Not like I need an excuse to have a drink but tonight I will have one or shoot maybe I’ll even have an afternoon drink…

A year ago I was at my Brothers house next door to where I used to live. I was having a glass of wine with my sister in law that she offered me after being stressed out after an argument that MOHCINE and I just had. Today marks the day that after that argument while I was next door at their house. MOHCINE decided to walk out that door. Wow have things changed, not only have things but I have as well.

So if your the type of person that needs a reason to have a drink…well here is a reason…

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I finally got more pictures from my Divorce Party Celebration from Angela

Check out ALL the pictures here in the gallery ….

I had to celebrate my divorce this past month properly with a night with the girls this past Friday. Kerri, Angela, Erin and myself all hit up the local gay community and went in to one of my favorite clubs “The Brass Rail”. I have more fun in there then I do in any straight club. For one…let me tell you gay men can definitionally dance, WOW!!! Ok so here are the pictures from Erin’s camera (still waiting for the ones from Angela, come on girl send them over)..

The place to be

Us girls to bad it’s all blurry…when I look at this picture I feel like we were doing a commercial for Cingular

Here’s to a happy divorce… Angela asked if she could buy me a drink to celebrate my divorce, does she really think i will say no? So she got us buttery nipples yummi yum

Erin and I (not the greatest pic of me)

Erin getting freaky on the pole with a random guy who joined her

One of my favorite pics, however Kerri seemed to be in her own world and got her head cut off

Kerri and I pause for a very brief moment while dancing for a photo opp, my hands were hurting so bad from snapping my fingers all night with the music not sure why I always do that

Angela and I trying to get our groove on

At the end of the night we steal a picture with the DJ although i’m not sure he knew he was choking me a lil..

Outside at the end of the night the girls pose with the only drag queen in the place

I went out to get my mail today and the horns blow as I found my divorce papers sitting and waiting for me. Damn that was quick….

Yep ladies and gentlemen I am officially now a single woman. Now I don’t want to hear my phone ringing off the hook, with you all asking for dates.

Yesterday morning at 8:30 I met MOHCINE in the lobby of the San Diego County Family Court in good ole Downtown San Diego. MOHCINE offered to come pick me up and take me down there. But with traffic at that time of morning it’s faster for me to just jump on the trolley and get there in 45 minutes. The last time I had taken the trolley that far and gone through the areas I did was a lil over seven years ago. It was amazing to see how things have cleaned up along the way and then again some places seemed to have gone downhill.

So they opened the doors for the court room we check in and a few minutes later they grab us along with a few other cases to take us out. I had no idea what was going on. I’m still to this day surprised that we even had to go to court. We don’t have any properties that we needed to split up, no children together and we both agreed to everything so it wasn’t a fight. My Mom and Dad didn’t even have to go to court and they had the 4 of us and a house. So we sat there and filled out this piece of paper that I must have filled out at least ½ dozen times before. It’s just a stupid paper you have to fill out when ever you need any kind of help in court. And with all the times I was there to get Brandon back I knew the paper and could fill it out practically without looking. Then we sat there and waited and waited and waited as the facilitator was helping everyone else but us. I know that we must have had on of the easiest cases there as I heard others discussing theirs, some of them were not even ready, and missing the other party. The facilitator finally told us we were next heads to the back but then we didn’t see her for like 45 minutes. Finally comes out tells us to sign here initial there and tells us we need to go get my signature notarized.

Off we run to get that taken care of come back and then she tells us that it’s going on to lunch time and we would have to go into the pm calendar for that day (what ever happen to our am calendar?). So their lunch is 90 minutes so MOHCINE says lets go to lunch. We get in the car when we realized that one of our restaurants that we used to go to all the time was a block away. Why deal with finding parking all over again if you don’t have to? We went and enjoyed a nice lunch talking about things in our lives then had some tea after.

Finally it’s time to go back to court we were then told to go back into the court room, from what I understood from the facilitator we were just going to get our paperwork that was finally processed. I thought it was a in and out thing but nope we were in there for 2 hours. Finally our names were called we were sworn in asked if we both agreed on everything, asked if we wanted our divorced to be granted today. And that was it, she wished us good luck and we were finally able to leave.

As we walked outside I asked MOHCINE…”well now that were all done, want to go back down the street and get remarried and do it all over again?” Gotta love a man with a good sense of humor, he said “sure why not?” lol. Obviously we didn’t do this I then had to ask him where my 2004 Mercedes was because the previous couple before us the lady was given the car.

After that he took me to get Brandon then drove us home. I gave him a hug as always thanked him for lunch and for a nice day and thanked him for the 7 years we shared. I know that I will see him again. And not only here in San Diego as I do plan on returning to Morocco someday with Brandon and will visit with him and his wonderful family.

I really wish that everyone could try to get along a little better when they are going through a divorce. Why does it always have to involve so much drama? Liosliath said to me in a quick chat online, “You and Jeni must be the most understanding ex-wives I’ve ever met! If only everyone could divorce so amicably…”

I replied with “there is no reason to act like fools; obviously we loved each other very much at one point to get married.”

“You need to write a book! ‘How to divorce and not act like fools’ I think people would buy it!” she says.

I can’t wait till the 29th as I have plans to go out dancing and drinking for a girls night of celebrating freedom!!! Last night Angela was over and I enjoyed way to much wine but had a good time….

Six months ago today is when MOHCINE got up and ran off, saying he needed some time to himself to think about what he wanted with his life. Two weeks later is when he said he wanted a divorce and that is when I announced it here… Those two weeks were such heartache. Boy time sure does fly by doesn’t it? WOW! Next month on June 19th we have a Court date I believe that is when our divorce will be finalized big party time ehh?

Funny how when you first go through the whole ordeal it’s so much pain but 6 months later it’s celebration time… maybe cause you realize your better off without them..

Tonight I was served my divorce papers. I also got all of the rest of MOHCINE‘s clothes out of the house, along with a few other things for him. He had his friend serve me and his friend pick up his stuff while MOHCINE waited down the street. Apparently he won’t be able to handle seeing me, Lucy or Brandon.

Seeing the summons in front of me I was a little relieved to know it the process was started, but at the same time a little hurt. Which is a completly normal feeling. I’m sure that MOHCINE was even affected by it as well. After all it’s not like we ended our relationship on totally bad terms.

The rest of his belongings which includes his clothes, important documents, photographs, and all the greeting cards I have given to him over the years. Everything else in the house is mine, after all he is moving out of the country, what is he going to do with it?

My served papers

I feel so confused and indecisive these days. I guess I have every right to be. Like yesterday, Angela told me to go out and do something to get some fresh air. For the life of me I couldn’t decide what I wanted to do, the beach, the park, sea world, what? Did I even want to go out or just be a hermit and stay home?

I also hate this time of year, It gets to dark way too early (5:30) and it just depresses me that much sooner. Most people will agree that the worst part about being single is being alone at night (Thanks Angela and Rochelle). Yes I have my boy and I love him dearly and more then anything in this world. But after having someone (my husband) here at night every night for almost 7 years and then back down to nothing it just makes it hard. And now while almost every night I have friends over or i’m going to see them even if i’m not always talking to who ever I may be with I just enjoy their presence, to know i’m not alone as it’s very comforting for me. Thanks Angela, Rochelle, Becca and Annie (when you come over) for being all so very supportive.

Since the news on Tuesday night from MOHCINE I haven’t cried, yelled, begged or had a breakdown once. Once or twice I have I have gotten close to sheading a tear or two but it hasn’t happened yet. I was asking Angela, is there something wrong with me for not crying for the past 4 days? It’s so not like me not to. I’ve always had horrible times with breakups. I guess I have just grown up alot since my last breakup. And I must be strong and concentrate on my Brandon. If it wasn’t for him I really don’t think I would be handling this the same way. Maybe deep down this is what I wanted, maybe subconciously I was ready for it to end. But this doesn’t mean that I don’t still love MOHCINE. I called him up today and told him, “Some say I should hate you, but I don’t. I may be dissapointed, and sad but yes I still love you.” He said he was glad that I didn’t hate him, After all how can you go from loving someone to hating them over night. To me, Hate is a very strong powerful word which I don’t like to use. I only think of one person when I think of the word hate and that is Jes as much of you know. Guess I’m alot stronger then I thought and surrounded by lots of other strong women.

Today I started to look at price ranges on apartments. I hate the idea of going back to an apartment after about 6 yrs of living in a house but it’s what I have to do. MOHCINE also said he would help out on the rent for the time that he is still here, so i’m very thankful for that. It will be so weird for me, because I have never lived on my own. I’ve always lived with family or friends or of course my husband.