Begging Moroccans
Some of you may recall my post a few months ago about “No more Moroccans“….
Well for the past few months since he has been sending me messages online always saying the same ole thing “Hello Miss, smootches, hugs” and i’ve always ignored him. You would think that after 2 months of someone ignoring your msgs that you would get a clue. But not this guy. I went through this and rewrote most of it so you can understand it more. Because if I didn’t half the stuff that he said would be hard to understand unless your familiar with chatting with foreigners.
Today I finally broke down and replied with…
“Please find someone else to try and smooth talk into giving you a visa… I know way too many moroccan men and I know the game all to well as you sit in a cafe sipping your mint tea or coffee going after unsuspecting american women. I was married to a moroccan man but at least he was here in my city when i met him. I know plenty of american women that have had this happen to them where you guys smooth talk, and they are just not strong enough or smart enough to know they are being played for nothing then a greencard (yes I do understand some moroccans do marry for love)… Sorry but I only give out 1 visa per lifetime (thanks for that line Jeni), besides in my opinion moroccan men can’t really handle american women”
Him… “No no sorry, i don’t want visa from some women there i swear. I am not looking for nationality please don’t understand me wrong ok? I want you to be my friend ok please? I want only to live in Morocco i don’t like to live in Europe or in America. Do you understand me now my dear friend please?”
Me… “You sound way way to desperate, you need to find friends in Morocco”
Him… “Please accept my friendship ok please? I beg you please, I really respect you. I am very sorry about what the Moroccan man did with you, god bless you my dear friend. I think he was very wacked”
Me… “You dont know what he did, so please don’t say anything about him” (how many women or men will actually defend their ex’s lol)
Him… “Please tell me what happend with him, why you are divorced with him my friend please? I hate the people that want only to marry for nationality, or to get green card. If i want to marry a woman i will love her for her not for something. I hate the business marriage I am very sorry you are very kind please tell me about you give me your email to chat together please (I’m thinking, I thought we were chatting?) please chat with me.”
Me… “If you want to have friends you have to stop begging, especially to people you do not know”
Him… “Ok my friend thank you, you have a big heart thank you for your advice. I saw your pictures you are very beautiful, is that kid your son please? (I replied with yes) God bless him I really respect you, you are like my sister. Do you speak some arabic words please? Anti Jamila, it means you are beautiful in arabic. Give me your email my best friend. Incha allah it means god willing”
Me… “LOL, I know that (thinking you think I would be married to a Moroccan man and not know such commonly used phrase such as Incha allah). How can you say i’m like your sister or that i’m your best friend if you don’t know me? You know nothing about me, please go find someone else, go meet friends locally.”
Him… “No No I like you (you don’t know me, I said) his-email@hotmail.com give me your email too (no) I will know you well in the future.” (Im thinking to my self not if I don’t want you to, you wont).
After a while of him not getting a clue you can either just stop and ignore him or get a lil mean and just have fun lol. Yes I know i’m horrible.
Him… “Don’t worry my dear friend, I am muslim, I am 27..and you? (I was like why does that matter?) You didn’t become muslim when you were married? I want you to give me your email.”
Me… “NO! I’m not going to so please stop asking” (damn i could only imagine how much emails I would get if I had given it)
Him… “Why are you hard with me my friend? (because I have no interest) Why you don’t like me, you really hurt my feelings I am not a bad person to be hard with me, I want you to be my friend. But you are free if you don’t want me” (of course I am, i’m thinking).
WARNING: Next paragraph may be TMI for some, So please feel free to skip over it, lol
Me… “Find someone else there are billions of people.” (then this is when i was hoping he would leave me alone with what I say next). “OK maybe this would get you to leave me alone, (hoping for a serious culture shock lol) I love having sex with women”
Him… “Oh my god, when we will be married I will only practice sex with my wife. I am a virgin and I want to be faithful to my future wife. You have only to practice sex with a man. You are free. You are really attractive to me by your beauty can you be my wife in the future? (Umm what happened to just being friends, im thinking then say “NO!!!) And live with me in Morocco please? (NO! I say once again) Why, I am 27″
Me… “Do you not understand I don’t want to be married to a Moroccan (he asked how old I am) i’m 33 and I love my country ( I want you as you are, he says) my freedom, my sexuality (I’m thinking, which I will not give up again) I went on saying, muslim men can’t satisfy american women they way most of us like and do what we like”
Him… “But I am kind, I am not like that person (even though I knew he was referring about Mohcine, I said to him, I’m not sure what person you are reffering too) What do you mean? I will let you do as you like.”
Me… “You are forbidden by your religion to do many things (I will deal you like a princess, he says) Please like I said find another person to marry you.”
Him… “I will love you more than my self (told him, that was not a good thing) But I want you…(you need to love yourself, I said) Please visit me this summer you can stay with me, not at a hotel. We have a big house I only live with my mom and my sister. (I ask him joking around, so your going to pay for my ticket and for my sons ticket round trip? Then said, if I was to go there I would stay with someone else meaning Mohcine’s family) No sorry I can’t (well then, I said, i’m not coming)..no you can stay with me ( I wouldn’t want to, I said of course) I will not practice sex with you untill we become married, come to me swim together, you are very welcome at me.”
Me… “For one I don’t know you, another I dont’ have $2000.00 to spend on airline tickets (he says I want to improve my english with you) Go to school i tell him. Then said, If I did go there i’m going to wait till my ex husband makes it back to morocco and visit him and his family” Which has already been discussed with Mohcine and he is cool with it…
Him… “Sorry my dear friend, but I want you only for me. I don’t want you to know any man without me. I will be jealous about you”
Me… “Im not going to be with someone that doesn’t want to share me w/ the world i WILL have friends. I dont’ want someone to be jealous.. that brings problems. I will not be beat or hit by a jealous man. (He says, I want you to be my future wife if you want me too) I will not marry you so please stop asking. I’m going to block you now I have work to do”
Him… “Sorry”
I signed off and ran off to an appointment I had…
Some of you may be asking me, like my friend Indie asked…”why take the time?” Well I wanted to have some fun after him bugging me for 2 months.
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You can block his IP address so that he can’t write to your blog. Do you know how to find out his IP address and blacklist him?
He sounds psychotic and very dangerous. Be careful!
Honestly I am not afraid of him or that….
As amusing as that is you need to block him.
You know, I love meeting people from all over the world. Getting to learn about different cultures and ideas from individuals instead of second hand from a book or American who visited, or just to be friends. But I could never stand guys from other countries hitting on me. Not even guys from Mexico, and my moms family is all from Mexico. I think that it is because they always seemed insincere and willing to say anything to get what they want from you. And it’s not just guys from other countries who act like this, but they just seem to be more prone to behave this way than Americans. Maybe part of my problem is also my adversion to doing anything that would offend someone, especially someone from another country. It is hard to tell a guy to “Piss off and leave me the F*** alone”, without it seeming rude.
He sure is persistent. Is he still a virgin because of religous reasons?
Hi, I came across think on a link. I have been talking to a Moroccan man for about a month now. He is very romantic and also very intelligent. He doesn’t sound at all like your friend, he has a great command of the english language, although sometimes it’s a little broken. He’s very laid back and easy-going, so it seems. I’ve seen him on webcam and he seems very healthy and looks like he takes care of himself. He is 11 yrs younger than me. Anyway, we have been getting closer and I think he is going to want to come here at some point, I am sure of it. I have asked him his intentions along with many other questions, and he says he just wants love, is not looking for a green card. I am extrememly attracted to him, his personality, mannerisms and looks, but I also know it’s a huge risk. It’s a 50/50 or even 75/25 chance he will take off once he gets his green card. I guess I have to either choose to take the risk or not. I have always been interested in other cultures, which attracted me to him in the first place. I’m going to have to read your other post now…
Well sorry for the typos, there’s no way to edit them…lol
Heather,
You know, my eyes were wide SHUT until I read this blog of yours. I begin to chat with a young handsome man from Morocco. He is 16 years younger than I and he says basically the same thing that this guy says to you. He LOVES the cafe and is always going there with his friends. He is cunning and smart and knows the right things to say. In the beginnings there were plenty of emails and poetry and then it suddenly stopped when he felt that he had me hooked. It is stupid of us sometimes to fall for this sort of scam, but it happens. I really appreciate your blog! Keep up the great work of informing people because believe it or not, many of American women are tired of the same old thing and we venture out into new pastures so to speak, but it is good to remember, that in EVERY pasture lies a whole lot of BULL shit!
God Bless you!
Thanks for the eye opener!
Um, I was married to a Moroccan man for a few years, if you can call it that. I call it Hell. And yes, he was in Morocco when I met him, he declared his undying love for me, and then came here. His disdain for me and all things American (except a green card, obviously) were evident, but I was blind. I was in love with love, so they say, and I was lured by the exotic. Don’t get me wrong, Arab men in general are really handsome, but at what cost? If I ever see one on a personal basis, he will have to at least be living in the West. Think once, twice, thrice, and listen to your friends and your heart. It almost destroyed me; years later, my finances are still suffering, as is my self-esteem, trust, and my health (a little “present” from when he was drinking, which it turned out was all the time, Muslim or not - I still have severe headaches). I have been divorced for years, but I am just getting to the point where I am brave and emotionally healthy enough to start thinking about another relationship.
I could go on for some time of the indignities I suffered at the hands of this man, but I will not bore you with the gory details. There is nothing there for you but heartache, I hate to say it. Find a good man stateside, or at least, like I said, already living in the West who at least does not need to marry to escape the crushing poverty and lack of opportunity. And by the way, if you chat with someone online, WATCH THE WEBCAM BUSINESS! You do not want to be talked into doing something stupid and end up being blackmailed, or being someone’s ticket out of poverty by selling an illegally-taped video to some website, if you get my drift…
Guard your heart: there are a lot of good people out there, have faith in God that He will send you the right person, and be wise…
God bless!
Mora, I was married to a Moroccan man for 7 years but met him here in the states. But he was actually a good man regardless that we are divorced now. My friends still say he was a good guy. So thankfully they are not all bad
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