28 Jun

Begging Moroccans

Posted by Heather, under Strange Conversations

Some of you may recall my post a few months ago about “No more Moroccans“….

Well for the past few months since he has been sending me messages online always saying the same ole thing “Hello Miss, smootches, hugs” and i’ve always ignored him. You would think that after 2 months of someone ignoring your msgs that you would get a clue. But not this guy. I went through this and rewrote most of it so you can understand it more. Because if I didn’t half the stuff that he said would be hard to understand unless your familiar with chatting with foreigners.

Today I finally broke down and replied with…

“Please find someone else to try and smooth talk into giving you a visa… I know way too many Moroccan men and I know the game all to well as you sit in a cafe sipping your mint tea or coffee going after unsuspecting American women. I was married to a Moroccan man but at least he was here in my city when i met him. I know plenty of American women that have had this happen to them where you guys smooth talk, and they are just not strong enough or smart enough to know they are being played for nothing then a green card (yes I do understand some Moroccans do marry for love)… Sorry but I only give out 1 visa per lifetime (thanks for that line Jeni), besides in my opinion Moroccan men can’t really handle American women”

Him… “No no sorry, i don’t want visa from some women there i swear. I am not looking for nationality please don’t understand me wrong ok? I want you to be my friend ok please? I want only to live in Morocco i don’t like to live in Europe or in America. Do you understand me now my dear friend please?”

Me… “You sound way way to desperate, you need to find friends in Morocco”

Him… “Please accept my friendship ok please? I beg you please, I really respect you. I am very sorry about what the Moroccan man did with you, god bless you my dear friend. I think he was very wacked”

Me… “You dont know what he did, so please don’t say anything about him” (how many women or men will actually defend their ex’s lol)

Him… “Please tell me what happend with him, why you are divorced with him my friend please? I hate the people that want only to marry for nationality, or to get green card. If i want to marry a woman i will love her for her not for something. I hate the business marriage I am very sorry you are very kind please tell me about you give me your email to chat together please (I’m thinking, I thought we were chatting?) please chat with me.”

Me… “If you want to have friends you have to stop begging, especially to people you do not know”

Him… “Ok my friend thank you, you have a big heart thank you for your advice. I saw your pictures you are very beautiful, is that kid your son please? (I replied with yes) God bless him I really respect you, you are like my sister. Do you speak some arabic words please? Anti Jamila, it means you are beautiful in arabic. Give me your email my best friend. Incha allah it means god willing”

Me… “LOL, I know that (thinking you think I would be married to a Moroccan man and not know such commonly used phrase such as Incha allah). How can you say i’m like your sister or that i’m your best friend if you don’t know me? You know nothing about me, please go find someone else, go meet friends locally.”

Him… “No No I like you (you don’t know me, I said) his-email@hotmail.com give me your email too (no) I will know you well in the future.” (Im thinking to my self not if I don’t want you to, you wont).

After a while of him not getting a clue you can either just stop and ignore him or get a lil mean and just have fun lol. Yes I know i’m horrible.

Him… “Don’t worry my dear friend, I am muslim, I am 27..and you? (I was like why does that matter?) You didn’t become muslim when you were married? I want you to give me your email.”

Me… “NO! I’m not going to so please stop asking” (damn i could only imagine how much emails I would get if I had given it)

Him… “Why are you hard with me my friend? (because I have no interest) Why you don’t like me, you really hurt my feelings I am not a bad person to be hard with me, I want you to be my friend. But you are free if you don’t want me” (of course I am, i’m thinking).

WARNING: Next paragraph may be TMI for some, So please feel free to skip over it, lol

Me… “Find someone else there are billions of people.” (then this is when i was hoping he would leave me alone with what I say next). “OK maybe this would get you to leave me alone, (hoping for a serious culture shock lol) I love having sex with women”

Him… “Oh my god, when we will be married I will only practice sex with my wife. I am a virgin and I want to be faithful to my future wife. You have only to practice sex with a man. You are free. You are really attractive to me by your beauty can you be my wife in the future? (Umm what happened to just being friends, im thinking then say “NO!!!) And live with me in Morocco please? (NO! I say once again) Why, I am 27″

Me… “Do you not understand I don’t want to be married to a Moroccan (he asked how old I am) i’m 33 and I love my country ( I want you as you are, he says) my freedom, my sexuality (I’m thinking, which I will not give up again) I went on saying, muslim men can’t satisfy american women they way most of us like and do what we like”

Him… “But I am kind, I am not like that person (even though I knew he was referring about MOHCINE, I said to him, I’m not sure what person you are reffering too) What do you mean? I will let you do as you like.”

Me… “You are forbidden by your religion to do many things (I will deal you like a princess, he says) Please like I said find another person to marry you.”

Him… “I will love you more than my self (told him, that was not a good thing) But I want you…(you need to love yourself, I said) Please visit me this summer you can stay with me, not at a hotel. We have a big house I only live with my mom and my sister. (I ask him joking around, so your going to pay for my ticket and for my sons ticket round trip? Then said, if I was to go there I would stay with someone else meaning MOHCINE’s family) No sorry I can’t (well then, I said, i’m not coming)..no you can stay with me ( I wouldn’t want to, I said of course) I will not practice sex with you untill we become married, come to me swim together, you are very welcome at me.”

Me… “For one I don’t know you, another I dont’ have $2000.00 to spend on airline tickets (he says I want to improve my english with you) Go to school i tell him. Then said, If I did go there i’m going to wait till my ex husband makes it back to morocco and visit him and his family” Which has already been discussed with MOHCINE and he is cool with it…

Him… “Sorry my dear friend, but I want you only for me. I don’t want you to know any man without me. I will be jealous about you”

Me… “Im not going to be with someone that doesn’t want to share me w/ the world i WILL have friends. I dont’ want someone to be jealous.. that brings problems. I will not be beat or hit by a jealous man. (He says, I want you to be my future wife if you want me too) I will not marry you so please stop asking. I’m going to block you now I have work to do”

Him… “Sorry”

I signed off and ran off to an appointment I had…

Some of you may be asking me, like my friend Indie asked…”why take the time?” Well I wanted to have some fun after him bugging me for 2 months.

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24 Jun

What I am Greatful for

Posted by Heather, under Life In General

I just realized it’s been a couple days since i’ve done this last so here we go

Here are my 5 things I am greatful for today (not in any order).

- The new great friends that are coming into my life

- My new friend Erin that came over on Friday night we had a great time, laughing, drinking, watching Movies along with other fun things…what time did we ever fall asleep?

- How great i’ve been feeling these days about myself and how positive i am feeling in regards to everything.

- Was able to get a few projects knocked off my list of things to do for clients.

- The beautiful day that Brandon and I had today. Jumping on the trolley to go across town to Mission Valley. Hung out at StarBucks for a lil while, he loves the strawberries and creme fraps. While out enjoying the day, I suprised him with some new framed posters for his room.

He loves StarWars (especially Revenge of the Sith) and loves playing all the StarWars games along with the Godfather game and the movie (As far as the movie though, not as much as me) I think I got the Godfather poster more for myself then him. It just doesn’t fit in with my decor around the house so it is good for his room.

I placed it on the wall where I can see it everytime I walk by his room….Sneaky I am aren’t I?

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21 Jun

Divorce Papers

Posted by Heather, under Life In General

I went out to get my mail today and the horns blow as I found my divorce papers sitting and waiting for me. Damn that was quick….

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20 Jun

It’s Official

Posted by Heather, under Life In General

Thanks for the 7 yearsYep ladies and gentlemen I am officially now a single woman. Now I don’t want to hear my phone ringing off the hook, with you all asking for dates.

Yesterday morning at 8:30 I met MOHCINE in the lobby of the San Diego County Family Court in good ole Downtown San Diego. MOHCINE offered to come pick me up and take me down there. But with traffic at that time of morning it’s faster for me to just jump on the trolley and get there in 45 minutes. The last time I had taken the trolley that far and gone through the areas I did was a lil over seven years ago. It was amazing to see how things have cleaned up along the way and then again some places seemed to have gone downhill.

So they opened the doors for the court room we check in and a few minutes later they grab us along with a few other cases to take us out. I had no idea what was going on. I’m still to this day surprised that we even had to go to court. We don’t have any properties that we needed to split up, no children together and we both agreed to everything so it wasn’t a fight. My Mom and Dad didn’t even have to go to court and they had the 4 of us and a house. So we sat there and filled out this piece of paper that I must have filled out at least ½ dozen times before. It’s just a stupid paper you have to fill out when ever you need any kind of help in court. And with all the times I was there to get Brandon back I knew the paper and could fill it out practically without looking. Then we sat there and waited and waited and waited as the facilitator was helping everyone else but us. I know that we must have had on of the easiest cases there as I heard others discussing theirs, some of them were not even ready, and missing the other party. The facilitator finally told us we were next heads to the back but then we didn’t see her for like 45 minutes. Finally comes out tells us to sign here initial there and tells us we need to go get my signature notarized.

Off we run to get that taken care of come back and then she tells us that it’s going on to lunch time and we would have to go into the pm calendar for that day (what ever happen to our am calendar?). So their lunch is 90 minutes so MOHCINE says lets go to lunch. We get in the car when we realized that one of our restaurants that we used to go to all the time was a block away. Why deal with finding parking all over again if you don’t have to? We went and enjoyed a nice lunch talking about things in our lives then had some tea after.

Finally it’s time to go back to court we were then told to go back into the court room, from what I understood from the facilitator we were just going to get our paperwork that was finally processed. I thought it was a in and out thing but nope we were in there for 2 hours. Finally our names were called we were sworn in asked if we both agreed on everything, asked if we wanted our divorced to be granted today. And that was it, she wished us good luck and we were finally able to leave.

As we walked outside I asked MOHCINE…”well now that were all done, want to go back down the street and get remarried and do it all over again?” Gotta love a man with a good sense of humor, he said “sure why not?” lol. Obviously we didn’t do this I then had to ask him where my 2004 Mercedes was because the previous couple before us the lady was given the car.

After that he took me to get Brandon then drove us home. I gave him a hug as always thanked him for lunch and for a nice day and thanked him for the 7 years we shared. I know that I will see him again. And not only here in San Diego as I do plan on returning to Morocco someday with Brandon and will visit with him and his wonderful family.

I really wish that everyone could try to get along a little better when they are going through a divorce. Why does it always have to involve so much drama? Liosliath said to me in a quick chat online, “You and Jeni must be the most understanding ex-wives I’ve ever met! If only everyone could divorce so amicably…”

I replied with “there is no reason to act like fools; obviously we loved each other very much at one point to get married.”

“You need to write a book! ‘How to divorce and not act like fools’ I think people would buy it!” she says.

I can’t wait till the 29th as I have plans to go out dancing and drinking for a girls night of celebrating freedom!!! Last night Angela was over and I enjoyed way to much wine but had a good time….

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20 Jun

What I am Greatful for

Posted by Heather, under Life In General

Here are my 5 things I am grateful for today (not in any order).

-To be finally divorced (will post about yesterday later on)

-For the fun evening I had with Angela and her kids last night to celebrate the divorce

-That although I got news today of a project being put off another 2 months I am still not letting it bum me out.

-For my family and friends all being healthy

-The beautiful cloudless sky

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