Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder
I’m going to talk about beauty from a different view.
Lately I’ve heard a few remarks from different people related to my appearance. These remarks don’t bother me at all, and the only time they do seem to bother me is if I hear a comment from a “so called friend.” (and even then I shouldn’t let it bother me, but i’m working on it) Which is what I had happen the other day on a msg board I was on It’s a small little group of us (about 20). One of them made a comment to me, I got insulted only because I thought I was in good with the group. I didn’t think there was any judgemental people there, but I guess I was wrong. I made a few comments back and told them I was leaving, and that is what I did. But even now I think “why am I letting him win?” I have had a few thoughts of going back, but haven’t decided. Now total strangers can say what ever they want to me, and i’ll just blow it off..after all who are they to me? Nobody!!! Why let them get the best of you? Specially when you don’t know them. Apparently they are NOT totally confident with themselves that is why they feel the need to “try” and insult others. You may be asking, if it doesn’t bother you then why are you writing this? Well it just had me thinking why people act this way? If they don’t like the way a person looks, then they don’t need to look at them, they can turn their head, don’t visit my/their site/blog. Why should they waist their time trying to insult me/them? I may not have a sexy body but I do know that I have a sexy mind.
But I do understand every woman wants to listen the sweet words “you are beautiful” as I do too. But the beauty of a woman is far from her looks or figure. Physical beauty is only one aspect while a beautiful charming personality is a complete blend of many characteristics such as good manners, etiquette, behavior, smile, intelligence, sense of humor, social and family values etc., all make a woman look beautiful and attractive. I know this for a fact as in my past I have had people who at first I didn’t find attractive, but after to taking the time to get to know them the beauty seemed to shine right through. I couldn’t help but to tell them how beautiful they are. Isn’t this the way it should be? After all don’t we all grow old and end up looking the same way in the ultimate end?
My friend Niecha said to me last night on the phone when we were talking about relationships and I have to agree with her on this. “You can’t ask yourself, am I good enough for them? You have to ask yourself, are they good enough for me?”
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You know your beautiful…You just won’t listen to me…but then again..maybe i’m the one you don’t want to hear it from..
I’m very fond of you Heather and I know plenty others are as well. Sometimes people are just assholes for no reason other than to hear themselves talk, don’t give them the satisfaction babe.
Niecha seems to be a wise woman.
I have always cared way too much about what others think about me and actually I was discussing this in therapy the other night. It’s hard not to care, I think as humans it’s very normal. You are beautiful and so much of a better person than someone who could do stuff like that. People do horrible things like that because of their own issues and that’s just sad.
As for me, I am 6′2″, I’m deaf and proud of being a bbw. I don’t never let anyone tell me that I am not beautiful. I always thought that people are jealous when they insult people for no reason. Looks comes and goes as years comes…but the heart is always the same, beautiful. If you have an ugly heart, then it’s ugly all the way but beautiful heart makes it more the beautiful and this is my belief.
Don’t let anyone, and I mean anyone let you think that you are anything but beautiful. You are so gorgeous and people need to see the beauty not only from the outside but from the inside as well.
When I was growing up I had a lot of people tell me that I was not pretty and that I looked weird because I grew up where girls were blonde haired and blue eyed or had different colored eyes with light brown hair. And well I am a plain jane with my brown eyes and brown hair.
It was not until I grew up more that I realized that they were wrong and that I was better than them because I had a heart with more love and life than they all did.
I agree that you do feel the need to hear those sweet words we all do, but it has to come from someone that truly means it and you allow it. We are all beautiful in our own unique ways. We sometimes fail to notice it and search for it more on the surface.
I believe that everyone is beautiful & handsome!
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